It can be both an exciting yet very confusing time if not downright crazy. Its little wonder one does not develop a split personality in the youthful years of one's life when forced to live out two behavioural practices. It's not cool to talk with a heavy Ugandan accent cause you so want to fit in with the other black kids in the school or neighbourhood. So you immediately latch on to copy your peers - ending up sounding worse off - only at times, you are the only one to realise this. You start to quit speaking your mother tongue - epecially in the presence of your homies to loose the africaness. Next is the wardrobe transformation - times the two interlap. But still you gotta respect your parents the way it's done back where you originally come from. At least this is what it was back in the days before childline came to the fore. Now soon as your peers get hold of you, your brain will be a walking encyclopedia on childrens rights, your parents will start wondering if something was slipped you in the school dinners. Its a crazy time alright - you get so much freedom cause half the time you got the house to yourself and the TV/PC. See your parents are busy trying to earn a living - but what the heck, you just wanna be like the kids next door...

Let the kids be left to do what they think is right after all, ezenkana nkana nebisikki, tezaaka... Mumaso bwebaba balabye light, nga badayo ewa bazadde babwe nga betonda...

ericmugisha07 wrote:

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Let the kids be left to do what they think is right after all, ezenkana nkana nebisikki, tezaaka... Mumaso bwebaba balabye light, nga badayo ewa bazadde babwe nga betonda...

Oooh Dear!!!!

I am failing to spot an ounce of morality, and neither a pint of parental potency in the whole text there!

I honestly wouldnt wish to have you for a next door neighbour with that kind of mentality towards kids!!

How I wished I were given options and choices as a kid! But that was then.

And who can stand here and tell me kids ever make any wiser choices?

And by the way....Dont you think you are contradicting yourself by saying "Let the kids be left to do what they think is right after all, ezenkana nkana nebisikki, tezaaka... "

Banange nfa ekiziyiro.......

I feel like a poodle left in a gigantic bucket half filled with water,with a tight lid on top!

Anyone out there bold enough ready to save a soul?

Akaakyama amamela, bwokagolola kamenyeka bumenyesi. Nze nsubila nti omwana bwaba nga wakubeela muntu ategela munsi, Teyetaga nakubela awo nti omubulila nti alina okuwa abantu abakulu ekitibwa. Ago gegamu kumagezi omuntu gazalibwa nago. PHAD njagala ombulile. Kyogamba nti gwe singa Baba tebakugambye nti okutta kintu kibi, gwe wandibadde otta??? I don't think so. Kale nze ndaba ekintu kyomwana,.... sigana bwolaba nga kyetagisa, oyinza okumubulilila naye nga nze ndabye abazadde banji nnyo. Bawoza abana babalemye songa bagezako okubabulilila. The child is told this but he/she does that.... that is why nakugambye nti ezenkana nkana nebisiki tezaaka. Omuzadde aba alaba nti ayamba, songa ayonona budde bwamwana kati awo ekivamu... omwana kuduka wakka. Naye nze ndaba omuntu alina okubela motivated okuva mumutima gwe. If a child is motivated, you don't even need to say anything. for those who are not motivated, they end up on the streets... Nebwokola otyaaaaaa togenda kukamula mazzi mujjinja!!!!!

Ericm – My understanding of sayings of the mother-tongue is still limited, so I will assume I am just not getting you correct. It would appear you share this take by Pink Flyod’s lyrics a while back…but correct me if I’m wrong please.

QUOTE:
We don't need no education

We don’t need no thought control

No dark sarcasm in the classroom

Teachers leave the kids alone

Hey! Teachers! Leave the kids alone!

All in all it's just another brick in the wall.

All in all you're just another brick in the wall.

Perhaps we ought to look at addressing where discipline should start from and a framework of how one might perhaps opt to choose from in addressing specific concerns be them from the youth or the adults. It would be very helpful to hear from the youths themselves on what they think however...



A human child is not born independent – she/he learns from the behaviours of those around them, and sometimes a case of “do as I tell you” may not be enough to satisfy the ‘sponge-brain’. If a parent or carer does not instil from an early age in a child to have the wisdom to make choices that he/she ought to be responsible to, then that individual will most definitely become vulnerable to external influences, which may or may not be positive ones. I think motivation comes with the confidence within oneself along with the environment one finds themselves in, which enables one to be receptive to learn and know how to handle the outcome of decisions made.



Most parents do their level best to ensure the foundations of their children are the best they can give, (in fact thats why some bring their kids across to the diaspora) albeit there are always exceptions to the rule. Not being clones but individuals some will still choose to follow their own leads no matter what, but what’s important is for one to know they did the best they could, armed with the facts as they were at the time of their decisions.



Btw – I agree with you on the take on the respect thing – respect is not deserved but rather to be earned by all. If you respect yourself and others, chances are high you will be respected back genuinely without coercion no matter what your standing happens to be in society/community.

Ok sir.

Now let’s talk about kakyama mamera, perhaps you are forgetting it’s the parents at fault here to kukyaama mamera.

• If a kid went into a habit of deceit and telling lies, from an early age on, and they went unchecked by the parent, tell me who will have watered this Kakyama Mamera plant to blossoming into a fully fledged City Con-man decades later? Ani atakimanyi nti obukumpanya buzaala obubbi?

• What of a kid who often brought toys and stuff home from wherever, and you as a parent never bothered enquiring about where he got them from, but instead you acted naive and as if it was okay, then finally he ended up a Thug…who will have groomed that habit?

• And whose blame would it be, if a shooting happened in your neighbourhood, and the assailant happens to be your beloved kid, you used to praise for having a hot temper, after hitting others?

Nze gye nakulira b’atugambanga nti Olugono luzaala Ettemu

• If a kid chose to get in and out of the house any time he/she deemed convenient and you as a parent saw as a fitting choice, then you are happily helping grooming OMUSEGE…..Say I am wrong and I’ll shut up.

Guess what Eric…Kids don’t run away from homes because of lack of motivation. Besides DOMESTIC VIOLENCE,which is a No.1 reason for kids fleeing their homes,IGNORING them is a major factor that forces them out of their homes.

Search for LOVE ,pity, mercy, attention,support and sometimes a decent meal that they lack in homes is all it is.

Now if you tell me it’s Motivation, you need to do a lot better than that to convince readers here, otherwise your reasoning will seriously be doubted am afraid!

Ever heard of the Old Adage "Charity begins at home"? By failing to be a role-model parent, you are not failing just your kid and family,but the society as a whole.



Njagala okukubuuza a couple of personal questions ssebo…..

Do you happen to be a parent by any chance?

Do you live with kids around, oba obalengera ku mulirwaano

If any of those answers is a NO, then I rest my case, I would rather we live it at that.

Either way, I am striving so hard to believe and hope this is not a comment on impulse.