Ever wonder how you can get your guy to commit? Or more specifically how to transition from "let's-have-fun-and-see-what-happens" mode to "we're-exclusive-boyfriend-and-girlfriend" mode. Let's say you've fallen for a great guy and after a few months/years are beginning to wonder where you stand and he's not saying anything, does not seem in a hurry. "Are we on the same page emotionally?" "Is he as into me as I'm into him?" "Does he see a future with me?" How are you going to get that information?



Well the obvious solution is INITIATE THE CONVERSATION, just to come right out and ASK him ....right? But WAIT... does culture agree? Yours opinions people........

The an written rule here is whoever brings a topic yasooka okuteesa



Naye kulwange ndowooza nti bwooba oludde nomuntu omanya embeera bweeri nomanya oba ebintu obyongereyo oba osika kitajja , mpozzi noluusi kisinziira kumyaaka bwooba okyaali muto nnyo oyinza okutwaala buli kimu nge kikyetagisa kupapira kalibe nti ddala ebbanga omazze ddene nomuntu gwooli naye mu mukwaano. naye emyaaka gyegikoma okuyita otandika okwebuuza nti guno omuzannyo ogutaliiko daala ,

ddala njagala okugusigalamu anti nga si boy friend ate si mwaami ngomukwaano guli awo wakati wegugubidde , kati awo nze kyendaba waba wasigadde kusaawo kabuuzo tweyongereyo oba tubiveeko kuba wano mba ndabawo okuguba. , Kuba bwooba nga mubeera mwenna oba ngo mufumbo atali mugatte , munno neyeyisiza ddala ngeyakusasula noluusi nokujooga natandika, kyokka bwomugamba ku byempeta nga atandika okwebulankanya . Okwo kwekuba okuddibwaamu kwo toyongera kukaddiyira wa boyfriend bwaaba ayagala mukozi wakumufumbira nokumwoleza alina kukiteeka mubuwandiike nakitwalira ba agent abakola ku ba housegirl



Kati Astartios bwobiretamu ebya culture oba obyonoonye nze endowooza yange ngireeta nga mwembi muli bantu bakulu nga muli wabweeru , kuba kyendowooza eka ebintu kukyuuka naye nga ebyokwefumbiza mu culture ya baganda nga kivve nga kyo ekyokwagala abasajja ngoova mumaka gabazadde bo nge kyo kikolebwa mububba ebyennaku zino kukyuuka naye nga nakyo tekikkirizibwa

Mbadde wanno nentebeleza mu nti answer yakino ekibuzo eli muluyimba lwebayita "Ensi yaleta"

Now listen up, and listen well: 'THE CONVERSATION' is a RELATIONSHIP KILLER. There have been a few of our menfolk in the history of humankind who have been strong enough to be on the receiving end of 'The Conversation,' but the vast majority have either died on the spot from fear: laugh: or have been sent running for dear life just from hearing the words, 'We have to talk.'"



Here's the deal: if you think things are going great with your guy - fun dates, fascinating conversation, amazing chemistry - then there's a VERY good chance that he's feeling it too. However, even if he’s totally into you, he may not be eager to DEFINE exactly what’s going on just yet. Why is this? Well, I think of it this way: we girls LOVE labels, (And no, I don’t mean PRADA, GUCCI). We tend to take comfort in knowing what to call our guy (boyfriend, fiancé, husband, prick, cheating bastard, @#&*!+, (forgive the french), while men, on the other hand, aren’t so concerned with the label thing, at first anyway. They are just enjoying how great it feels to be spending time with you and they know that they want to keep it going, for how long…….? A......hem: angry: . Infact, there is probably a part of him that is feeling hesitant to make if official. But, if you ask me, this has nothing to do with you. It is most likely his fear of the CONCEPT of commitment, not specifically of a commitment with YOU. A million fears go through a guy’s mind when he thinks about the concept of commitment and here are but a few:-



(a) His independence, he is afraid to give this up;

(b) He is afraid that being in a relationship will drastically alter his life as he knows it; ...kabandi kundongo)

(c) He is afraid that he will immediately be on the path to marriage without having any say in the matter.



Now I believe most guys will be over these fears once they have spent enough time with you to realize that you are different from the stereo type girl friend. After dating for a while, depending on your situation, a light bulb will go off and he should be able to say to himself, “wait a minute, I have been with her for three months now and things just keep getting better. He will be more worried about losing you and will lock it down before someone else tries to steal you away.



So dear sisters maintain a little dignity and be patient, if you cheerfully give him space he will figure out where he wants to go from here. The truth is these guys, when in a contemplative panicked state anything you do to try and convince them will inevitably push them away. If you initiate “THE CONVERSATION”, you immediately assume the role of the pursuer and he will start to feel pressurized. Like the power to make a decision is out of his hands (and our men folk like to feel like they are the decision makers).



GALS BE PATIENT IT WILL PAY OFF. HE WILL COME BACK TO YOU AND DEFINE THE RELATIONSHIP EXCLUSIVELY.



How about the culture thing……….? PUH Leaaaaaaaaaaase, this is the 21 century for goodness sakes.





EBYANGE BYEBYO! CHEERS