My husband had a child with another woman

Monday, 21st July, 2008 E-mail article Print article









Dear Counsellor,

I have been in a very stable relationship with my husband for the past few years. We are both working and had decided to have children at least after we had become financially- stable.



A few months ago, I learnt that he impregnated someone and she was due to have a baby in June. The baby has come and, of course, he and his family are very excited, this being his first son. He makes regular visits to the woman but he says he has made it clear to her that he is there for the boy.



The woman also calls him regularly. They had a very big party at the his parents’ home to celebrate the birth of the boy. I am very distressed and let down because of the betrayal and long-term reminder of the infidelity that has come in our midst. I have lost all trust and I am in unbearable pain.



My husband says it was just a fling after we had had an argument and that he realised his mistake when it was too late.



My mother thinks I should forgive him because we are married and he has been so honest about the whole issue. She also thinks he genuinely loves me.



My friends also think it is just one of those selfish, malicious women who are there to spoil people’s marriages, but my boyfriends have advised me to leave the marriage.



I feel extremely let down and I do not know whether I will ever forgive my husband. I have been faithful. Although I have always had men who are better off than him making advances, I thought I would not cheat on him. Can I keep the marriage going despite the fact that I do not have any child with him, or should I let go?



He told me his family favours the other woman because she is richer than me and now has a son, what else do they need? It hurts; you should have seen them cut the cake on my wedding!

Have you ever been in a similar situation? What did you do? Please advise me.







OMUKYALA ONO ANONYA KUMAGEEZI;AKOLE ATYA?????????????????